Eight Tips for Weathering Grief

I was given this article as a possible help for our GriefShare ministry in our church. It is well written and I hope it will be a help to those who are in the refining process of healing.

Tender Mercies

fullsizeoutput_61f8I don’t propose to be an authority on grief, but I have suffered a lot of loss—including my brother in 2000, my sister in 2001, my husband in 2003, my daughter in 2006, and my mom in 2014, and I just lost my niece in 2017. Up until then, the biggest loss I’d had was my grandparents and then my dad in 1976.  I found I was ill prepared for the losses of the 2000’s.

Grief –  Deep sorrow, especially caused by someone’s death

Synonyms: sorrow, misery, sadness, anguish, pain, distress, heartache, heartbreak, torment, affliction, woe.

Many things bring grief. It’s a universal sign of being human, and it isn’t a weakness.  It’s the cost of loving deeply.  Many things bring grief—-a move, loss of health, loss of a job, financial loss, empty nest, divorce, infertility, changing churches, anything that brings loss of dreams,  Then there’s the loss…

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Crying Out

“In my distress I called upon the LORD; to my God I cried for help. From his temple he heard my voice, and my cry to him reached his ears.”  Psalm 18:6 ESV

I had gone through a few hard days physically.   I had a weekend of aching (glowing) arthritic knees and sinus pressure that was effecting my vision.

So, the following Monday, I went to my doctor to get help.  He told me to take Musinex and Flonase for the sinus pressure and gave me a shot to help my knees.  It was suggested that I take my annual flu shot, so I got a flu shot.

The next morning, I had a CT scan to make sure I was Continue reading

A Helping Hand

I was teaching my Sunday school lesson yesterday, speaking on God’s miraculous grace.  It is not uncommon for me to remember an event that relates to a given subject while I am teaching.  This is the memory that came to me while I was teaching.

When I was going through chemotherapy, I was in a weakened state.  It was in January, I believe, and the left front tire of Terrie’s car was low and needed air.  If it had gone flat, I would not have been able to exchange the tire on the side of the highway.  She would have been unable to change it.  So, picking the lesser of two hard positions, we went to the corner gas station to add air. Continue reading

Dare To Dream

There is a billboard on the interstate near downtown Oklahoma City that reads “Dare To Dream”.  Since I’m driving 60 miles an hour, that’s about all I can read.  It may have something to do with a home mortgage or something like that, but I’m not sure.

I have been thinking about those three words for a couple of days now and wondered if I dare to dream or has life killed that desire. Continue reading

The “Unlikely’s”

 

I was listening to my pastor preach and he said something about someone in the Bible that would have be unlikely to be used by God.  I began to think on that subject and began recalling some names that would make you think that they were not qualified as we might see them, but were perfectly qualified from God’s point of view.  Here are a few of the ones I thought of:

How about Abraham and Sarah?   Continue reading

The Restoration Of Peter

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5 So when they had finished breakfast, Jesus *said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you [a]love Me more than these?” He *said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I [b]love You.” He *said to him, “Tend My lambs.” 16 He *said to him again a second time, “Simon, son of John, do you [c]love Me?” He *said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I [d]love You.” He *said to him, “Shepherd My sheep.” 17 He *said to him the third time,  “Simon, son of John, do you [e]love Me?” Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, “Do you [f]love Me?” And he said to Him, “Lord, You know all things; You know that I [g]love You.” Jesus *said to him, “Tend My sheep. John 21:15-17 NASB

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Church Softball

My interest in sports had some major roadblocks when I was growing up.

In the fourth grade, we they would play baseball during recess time.  They would pick teams based upon throwing a bat vertically and someone grabbing it near the end, then fist over fist until team members were chosen.  I was usually last, of coarse, the fact that I didn’t know how to play or had ever received instructions about playing contributed to my status.  I recall standing in left field, a borrowed glove on my left hand, when a ball was hit my way.  I reacted by raising my right hand to catch it, only to have the burn of the ball cause me to drop it.  A very embarrassing moment, Continue reading

The Back Porch

My brother and his wife moved into a new house in the fall of 2015.  It is a beautiful home with wooded property on the other side of the fence.  Very quiet and peaceful.

On Monday, November 23rd of that year, my wife died in her sleep.  Her funeral was on Wednesday, November 25th.  Thanksgiving was on the next day, Thursday, November 26th.

I was asked to come to my brother’s house for Thanksgiving.  Everyone knew I would be hurting, but also knew I didn’t need to be alone.  I knew it as well, so I went for the day.

The house was full of family and little children.  I was used to my home being much quieter with just Terrie and me.  So it didn’t take a long time Continue reading

When God Changes Your Way

Have you every been in a strange location and come upon a detour sign?  You are unsure of where the detour will lead you, but trust that it will eventually get you back onto the road you want to be on.

There are detours in our lives that changes our coarse, our plans, and our desires.   When Terrie died, my life began a new and unexpected detour.  For you, it might have been a divorce or a loss of a job or health difficulties, but while disappointing and even Continue reading

You Only Need One

As I have observed families for most of my life, I have come to believe that I have been blessed with the brother and sister the Lord provided for me.

I have heard of siblings actually fighting one another or not liking, much less loving one another, but that has not been our case.  We have not always agreed on specific things, but we have always shown love and respect for one another.

Brenda is one and Continue reading