Wings of the Morning

july_morning_sunbeams_by_jchandersI like to return to my favorite Psalm (139) when I am in need of comfort and guidance.  Such was the case, after my dear wife died in her sleep a year ago.  The morning of her funeral, I opened my old tattered bible to this Psalm to give me bravery, hope, and peace.  I have had this old friend for most of my Christian life; this friend with its stained, underlined verses could do that.  This old friend could comfort me in the loss of my oldest friend.

I began to read these verses, which seem to me to be very intimate  Continue reading

Update 11.23.16

news_headline_300TWELVE MONTHS/ ONE YEAR

It is hard to grasp the range of emotions that I have felt in the last year.  The tears, the anger, the frustration, the loneliness, but there was/is also the comfort I received from the Lord, from my family, and from my friends.  The greater love I have come to understand from my Lord and a greater appreciation of the love I had with Terrie. Continue reading

Requiring All

emptypockets300I think we live in a society that doesn’t want to get involved, doesn’t want to be counted on, doesn’t want to be committed – unless it’s fun and you can “come and go” as you like, and you can remain un-attached, remain unanimous and if it doesn’t cost you much.  It has to revolve around the individual –it’s all about me and what I want.

This philosophy manifests itself in relationships, families, and churches, organizations in lack of participation, faithfulness, attendance, and giving.    In each of these examples commitment and taking responsibility are lacking.

There are few who will empty their pockets to give their all, to be totally committed to something or someone.  But Jesus, when questions by the scribes, said that is what we would need to do when we love Continue reading

Essentials For A Christian Life – Chapter Two

CHAPTER TWO

Sin And Thenewgrowth_300 Saint (Finding Forgiveness Through Jesus)

Our sin debt was paid for by the sacrifice of Jesus Christ (2 Cor. 5:21).  It is by His grace that we were given a new life, but why do we sin after we’re saved?  Is that normal?  The Apostle Paul was one of the strongest Christians that we know of.  Yet, he described himself as the chief of sinners (1 Tim. 1:15).  He knew how our thoughts affected our lifestyle and how bad decisions would lead to sin (Rms. 8:5-11).  As the “chief sinner”, he knew in order to have a right relationship with the Lord, it is essential to seek forgiveness of our sins.  The sin and the sinner must be separated.  How does that happen?  Only through Jesus! Continue reading

Essentials For A Christian Life – Chapter One

newgrowth_300PREFACE

Early in my life, I was raised without much instruction as to how to do things.  Living was hard and took a lot of effort on the part of my parents, to earn a living for the family.  Later, in my life, my future father-in-law provided a lot of instruction in how to do things.  I learned a great deal in his crowded garage, where we spent many hours working together on many projects.

When I became a Christian, my mentors were men that I would watch and try to learn from their behavior and lifestyle.  But there was no one to sit with me and tell me what was needed to live a life for Jesus. Continue reading

Update 10.23.16

news_headline_300ELEVEN MONTHS

Did you catch the mistake I made on my last update?  One clever reader, after reading the post,  alluded to my being able to predict the future.  I said to myself “Huh, what are they talking about?  I didn’t write anything about predicting the future!”  I re-read the body of my piece four or five times and did not find what they were talking about.  My judgement was, “They’re NUTS!”  I got a text from my sister, which unlocked the mystery for me.  She said, “Your title is Update 10.23.16.  This is 09.23.16.”  While she didn’t say it, she could have been justified by adding “Moron.”  So, the clever reader got me.  Made me twist in the wind.  Showed no mercy.  But that’s par for me, that’s normal (me smiling here)!  That’s the way I’m treated!! Continue reading

A New Discovery?

steve_200I have been thinking of a statement I made in yesterday’s post Update 09.23.16.   I wrote, “…my new life, my still undefined new identity.”  I keep asking myself, “Are you really undefined?”  And I answered with “NO! I’m not undefined.”

I have written about who I thought I am (Can A Man Know Himself?) and I think that was fairly accurate, but since Terrie died, the phrase “new identity” has been used in several  discussions of grief recovery.  Many identified me in association with Terrie.  WE were identified as”Steve and Terrie” or “Terrie and Steve”.

With half of that Continue reading

Update 09.23.16

news_headline_300 TEN MONTHS

I’m not sure how I feel today.  I’m not sure what to anticipate. I see myself in an open, unfamiliar field and not sure of where the path leads. I know I must keep walking, that this is not the place or the time to stop.

My mind and my heart are in conflict about how I am with my new life, my still undefined new identity.  I seem to be adjusting to living alone.  I have times of being okay with it and other times it drives me crazy.  I can smile at times, but I don’t enjoy things as I once did, but I think that is to be Continue reading

Standards For Every Day

I was reading in the New Testament Book of Titus recently.  It was there that I read the blog_align_to_standardsqualifications for Elders found in Chapter one.  As an ordained Deacon and Elder, these verses are always humbling to me as I read them.

There are three offices noted in the New Testament for the local church: Pastor; Elder (also known as Bishop or overseer); and Deacon.  Additional qualifications can be found in 1 Timothy 3.  The Pastor’s responsibilities are to preach the Word, counsel, and provide direction for the congregation.  The Elder’s responsibilities are to set a Godly example, govern the congregation, protect the congregation, and teach the Word.  The Deacon’s responsibilities are to be a servant, to help meet the needs of the congregation.  They, too, are to be Godly examples. Continue reading

Following, Not Fighting – round one

boxing-ring-corner_300It was a few days before my fifty-fifth birthday; I was brushing my teeth, as I had done hundreds of time before, as I was preparing to go to work. I made a big smile to examine my work. It was then that I made the discovery.
I saw something white on the underside of my tongue on the left side. I pulled my tongue over and saw a white looking spot that was about three quarters of an inch by about one half of an inch. I showed it to Terrie and she said to leave it alone, but to be sure and show it to my dentist at my appointment the following Continue reading