Frank Sinatra made the song “The Second Time Around”, written by Jimmy Van Heusen and Sammy Cahn, popular. The first verse says, ” Love is lovlier the second time around. Just as wonderful with both feet on the ground. It’s the second time you hear your song sung. Makes you think, perhaps that love, like youth, is wasted on the young.”
I have stated if it is the Lord’s will, I would like to love again. My experience with Terrie was so wonderful to me, that I would like that to happen again. But the question behind the desire is does God want that to happen? The honest answer is, I don’t know.
Things are so much different now. I was eighteen years old, when Terrie and I had our first date. It was a blind date. She didn’t know me and I didn’t know her. She rocked me like I had been hit by the heavy weight boxing champion of the world. I didn’t rock her much, since it took about two years for her to know she loved me.
I have changed in many ways, from the eighteen year old Steve, and Terrie helped develop me. Terrie and her family showed me the importance of education, and a strong family life. My parents had given me a good work ethic. Both Mom and Dad were hard workers, and Terrie’s dad reinforced that ethic.
I am different spiritually. Jesus Christ drew me to Him when I was twenty six and I haven’t been the same since. My view of life, the world, and even how to treat women changed. I wanted to be a husband and leader of my home like the Bible said I should be. That was my goal. I did not always live up to it, but striving, nevertheless, to accomplish it.
And hopefully, with that spiritual change, I bring some wisdom and life experience to guide me as I look for love. For my entire Christian life, I have heard the teaching that teenagers and singles should not date anyone who would not be a potential mate. I have adopted that idea as I have begun to date.
I have made every effort to be cautious, as I have begun this part of my journey. I wanted to make certain that I’m not looking for another “Terrie”. That would not be right on many levels. The lovely lady, that I am dating, is as unique as Terrie was unique. They were both created as God chose to make them. At this point, the only similarities they have is a beautiful smile. But even their smiles are different, but both beautiful.
As my lovely lady and I continue to spend time together, our friendship will grow. And with that, trust and respect will grow. There are things that must heal with each of us. But the good thing is knowing we don’t have to rush. If God is “in it”, it will happen and be good. And I’m happy and at peace knowing that.
Love someday? I don’t know, but for now, I’m really enjoying friendship and companionship. It’s good to know, someone else in the world thinks that I am funny.