My brother posted these two words on his Facebook page a couple of days ago. Since then, I have been pondering them and their significance in light of our world .
It seems to me, these two words summarize a major problem we have in our society.
From my perspective, we as a society, are really self-centric! We only care for ourselves! Every thing must orbit around us and therefore the needs of others slide down on the list of importance.
When we turn inward, it changes our attitude and disposition toward the negative side. Nothing seems to please us. We start to question the motives of those around us and our relationships deteriorate. The results are that we become toxic and unhappy.
It’s been said that everyone needs two things in life: security and relevance.
Everyone needs to feel safe and secure as they lay their head on their pillow each night. Safety and security comes from feeling loved, from having boundaries and knowing what we should do and what we should not do in our lives.
For generations, these boundaries have been erected for us by our parents based upon their personal beliefs. Many personal beliefs are gleaned from the teachings of the Bible. The original guidelines were called the Ten Commandments. I won’t list them here, but I would invite you to read them for yourself in Exodus 20: 2-17. There are many principles and precepts in the Bible that instruct us in the ways that please God in our daily life. Let’s look at this one:
“39 And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ ” Matthew 22:39 NKJV
‘Loving your neighbor as yourself’ implies a concern for them and that they are important. They matter! When we lose our love for our neighbor, we lose our sensitivity to them as individuals and we lose our influence in showing them the love Christ Jesus gave to us.
The second thing that we all need in life is relevance, the need to feel we are important to others and are valued by them.
I wonder how you would feel if you thought your life didn’t matter to anyone. How would you feel if people treated you like you were invisible? How would you respond and react?
I think that I do. I was filled with rage. In previous post, I have written that my father and I never bonded. I’m not here to bash him or speak ill of him, I’m just stating a fact. While I’m sure I did to him, I didn’t feel like I mattered to him. But I did have people in my life who did make me feel like I was important to them and what I did or didn’t do, mattered to them.
When I state “You matter”, if may be a brother or sister, a mother or grandmother, a wife or husband, or your children, you have changed someone’s life by the fact that you are sharing your life with them.
When I changed churches to where I am now, I came from a small church to a medium sized church. I was concerned about not knowing any one and not fitting in. My friend told me that I didn’t have to know everyone, but to try to get to know fifty people. I said to myself that I could manage to know fifty people. Maybe in our world, we will not know everyone or have a personal relationship with everyone, but we can be kind and helpful and understanding for those we do come into contact with on a daily basis. What would it cost us to smile or say hello to someone we see walking into a store and might I add, to be genuine as you do it?
Let me come back to a theme that I seem to “preach” on frequently, to change a life, to change a family, to change a city, etc., etc. we must do it with a one on one relationship. I may only see someone at a gas pump for 30 seconds, but isn’t that long enough to say, “Good Morning!” What is the end result if we never interact with those outside of our circle? Do you remember people in your history who has shown kindness to you? It may have only been to hold the door open for you, or maybe a stranger that helped you in some way.
I told you about the time I was going through chemo. It was winter and very cold outside. My wifes car front tire needed some air in it. I got the hose and knelt down to put air in the tire and when I tried to stand up, I couldn’t. The cold air and the chemo zapped my strength. I couldn’t get both feet under me. Terrie watched me and I told her I couldn’t do it. She called out to a man who was getting gas for his pickup. He came over and placed his hand under my left elbow and helped me up. I don’t know who he was or if he was rich or poor or if he was of the same political party that I am or if he went to church or not, but what I do know is, at that moment, he was very important to me. He made a difference in my life.
As a Christian, I am taught to care about the spiritual needs, the emotional needs, the physical needs, the financial needs of other people. In these verses below, would you read them slowly and let the words and implications sink into your heart?
“2 fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. 3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. ” Philippians 2:2-4 NKJV
If you were to apply these words to your life, how would it manifest itself? What changes would need to happen to make it real and not just words written a long, long time ago?
Those words were written because you matter to the Lord as well. Are you aware the Bible teaches we will spend eternity in one of two place: Heaven or Hell. Eternity means forever and ever. To be saved from God’s wrath and Hell, you need to understand five things:
- Understand you have sinned against God. Romans 3:10-12 “There is none righteous; there is none who understands; there is none who seek after God. They have all turned aside, they have together become unprofitable; there is none who does good, no, not one.” Romans 3:23 “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
- Understand because you are a sinner, you deserve death. But God’s gift is eternal life. Romans 6:23 “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
- Understand you need a Savior and God the Father provided His Only Begotten Son, Jesus. Romans 5:8 ” But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
- Understand God’s plan is for you to confess and believe in your heart that Jesus is Lord. Romans 10:9-10 “That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.”
- Understand God keeps His promises. Romans 10:13 “For whoever calls upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
You matter! You matter to me and your soul matters to me. I pray if you do not know the Lord Jesus that you will go through those 5 steps and pray that the Lord will save you and change your life.
In our church, when our greeter stands to welcome those in attendance, he usually makes this statement, “If anyone hasn’t told you they love you today, I love you.” I may not know you, but I love you with the same type of love God has for you.
You matter and you can influence someone’s life for the better, so that they know they matter too. Let’s do it together!!